The Difference Between "WIFE" & "WIFEY"- by ShattaStar

I thought this was very interesting, So I'm posting this to my blog to get feedback. I sometimes have very deep conversations with ShattaStar-- Even though sometimes I don't agree with his topics he keeps my mind rolling even more than what it does. Read Below his definitions of "Wife" and "Wifey"

A young lady on twitter asked me whats the difference between being a wife and being a "wifey". I started to laugh but I had to realize that many women today honestly dont know what seperates the two, let alone the true definition of being a wife anymore. Most sistas just wanna get married, but not many wanna be a wife. I see so many women bragging about how shes some guys "wifey" which in my opinion is a low standard for any woman. So I will compare and contrast the difference between wife and "wifey".

A WIFE...

• never has to compete with other women because she is the only woman her man is seeing, "talking to", and interested in. She knows this from his actions. Not just his words.

• The wife knows her mans family and friends. She usually has her mans parents or guardians blessings. Along with his friends. If her lifelong partner's friends and family dont approve of her chances are she isnt going to be his wife.

• A man treats his wife with the utmost respect. Never cheats on her, or lies to her, or treat her like a jumpoff, a "main" or his "wifey".

• The wife usually sees a side of her partner that no one else sees. She knows her man inside and out. His darkest thoughts, secrets, etc. There are no mysteries. No cloudy areas. Everything is in the open.

• The wife is the woman who a man chooses to spend the rest of his life with. She gets the marriage proposal, the ring, and everything that man has to offer her for a lifetime.

A "WIFEY"...

• Is the woman who a man spends all of his time with. Usually been with for a long time. Maybe even live with. But isnt married or engaged. Ever thought why? Keep reading...

• Men know whether he is going to marry a woman in the early stages of the relationship. It takes us men no time to see if a woman is going to be around for a while...or a lifetime.

• The "wifey" also has met SOME of his family, and SOME of his friends. Sometimes the "wifey" may receive the mans family and friends blessings, but its usually over ruled by him...in the end.

• The "wifey" is equivalent to the "main". Meaning the one who he likes or cares about the most out of the women he deals with. The "wifey" is rarely the only one. Just in HER mind she is. But she dont know the TRUTH. Men are NEVER 100% faithful to a "wifey".

Heres why...

• The "wifey" is the woman who he may spend years with. In his heart he knows he wont marry her though. He'll keep her around until the woman who he feels in his heart he WILL marry comes into his vision, then its curtains for the "wifey". A man is going to be faithful or dedicated to the "wifey" for so long before he starts roaming. He will eventually break up with the "wifey" and go be with the woman who he will make his WIFE. So ladies...please stop bragging about how your his "wifey", all that means is your his TEMPORARY wife until the PERMANENT wife comes along. Then its back to the drawing board for you. Dont be stupid. If you dont have a ring on your finger then your just his girlfriend. "Wifey" is a very low standard to claim. Thank you for reading.

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I Knew It!!

I was "tweeting" not too long ago and got a lil tweet from JaMaal Buster-- You know, "the eyelash guru to the stars" .. DUH!! He's only like the most amazing eyelash guy out! Anywho-- He said that he had a pair of lashes with my name "trophy wife". How amazing! Now I should order them even though I should get one free trial pair for being "trophy wife", or I should be the spokes model for that specific pair.. (hint hint) Love them.. and they look similar to the ones I wear anyways. The photo is below and be sure to check out the site if you are in need of fly ass lashes for that special event or if u just wear them every day like myself.

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The Same Girl

There is so much wrongery going on in the world today, yesterday and tomorrow.

I don't even know where to start with this one. Okay--

The dating scene in general is all discombobulated. You never know who's checkin who...Don't think you're the only one cuz I guarentee that the chick sittin under the dryer next to you at the hair salon is datin the same dudes you're dating...

Knowing that women over populate men (in my world), I pick my men like I pick my fruit when I want a serious relationship. Seriously you have to be extremely careful. Men and Women both are sneaky. Guys will live with their chick- make her believe that she's the only one for him while he's driving her car to meet up with the next chick. SMH... How can a female be so silly? I have witnessed it over and over again.

I AM THE SAME GIRL your man leaves home in YOUR SHIT to come see. No i am not by far proud of it. HEY, I'm not the dummy in the relationship. Sure if Im not in a Relationship--I'll be girlfriend number two so I can send your dumb ass back home to your chick at night. lol. Sounds ruthless and disgusting- but you're the one putting yourself in this position. Because at the end of the day-- I DONT CARE....

The situation usually happens as follows: The guy can't run game on me and tell me a bunch of bull because I see through the game and I think like a man. I'm always 2 steps ahead of the game. I'm never the chick giving my hard earned money to a man only so that he can go out and trick on other females. Men know who they can and cannot run all over. So what do they do? They keep the "stay at home" girlfriend for security, so they will have a place to sleep at night if you will. The "same girl" is the one they really want to be with because she gives no drama, he has fun with her, he can be himself and can handle her business without bribing a man to stay by giving him her last penny.

You will NEVER catch me giving my money to a man. Dude, bring home the bacon and i'll cook it-OKAAAY? Seriously though...Is it wrong if you know the guy you're dating has a girlfriend? I don't think so especially if you just want to have fun. That's your business and my opinion. If there is no ring--no worries. Kapeesh?

Don't Be Mad-Get Real... Play the game or Get played..FLAT OUT.

*SIDENOTE*-- Dating people in your city is so last year thats how drama starts...try dating someone in a different state.

DAMN!!

You know, I wasn't going to post anything about the topic, because I have respect for the "expired". I have had my own personal views on the death of Michael Jackson. For those of you who didn't keep up with my tweets, here goes- and this is by far the truth weather you like it or not. I lost a few followers because they couldn't handle the truth or felt guilty because they fit the description of being a douche bag.

Michael Jackson was a great performer and obviously the "King of Pop". He had a great impact on the whole world and a very big influence to many of the artists our children look up to today. BUT it's such a sickening sorry shame that people start back recognising him AFTER he passed away. Let's face it, many of you have dragged this man through mud FACE DOWN, dawging the shit out of him, if you will. None of you even understood that this mans life. The biggest challenge for him was just to be accepted as he was and NOT for what lies people made up of him. Yes I was a bit sad because he passed away, and even cried at one point through the memorial service. He had no influence on me personally because I am not a performer. I loved his music and the way he performed and every single one of his music videos, but all of a sudden when it was announced that he passed away, everyone ran to the stores to buy his music, posters etc. Why didn't you purchase that stuff when he was alive? And that goes for anyone who passed away. You all only realise how wonderful a person WAS when they EXPIRE!!! Then all of a sudden you love him. Someone responded to me on twitter and asked how could I be so cold hearted and that they were only remembering him and don't I laugh and talk about good times when a family member passes away. Well Duh that's someone that shared the same blood as me HELLO I actually knew that person and spent QUALITY time with them. You don't actually know Michael Jackson.Yea you spent Quality time trying to do the moon walk and singing his songs and tearing him down. You just know that he was an all around great performer who influenced music stars today. Everyone is all of a sudden exploiting him and trying to tell what THEY think what happened. The proof is in the pudding, he had an addiction to something that made him feel better. Its sad to say but that's the conclusion. Now people want to keep his music alive. His music was alive when he was alive you just didn't acknowledge it. He was a great man and probably sweet as pie. Then to top it all off, his own father falls in the same category as most of you who contributed to the rumors. He can't even get a break six feet under.

I'm Out.

R.I.P Michael Jackson

Like Every Color Giuseppe's,Your Guilty Pleasure Is Me

.im a girly girl. i love everything about being a woman. from the hair, nails, things pink, skin shoes, clothes-- interior designing...all that.

for this past year and a half i was seeing an older guy- which really only started out as friendship because of the situation he got himself in and slowly got out of. (not a woman) during this time i was dating other men who pump me up only to bring me down with their "drama filled lives", and not knowing what they wanted from the opposite sex. while seeing this older guy, he made me realize without saying it, what it truly means to be a woman. no he didn't brain wash me. he did help me to open my eyes to the specifics about me. things such as hair, nails and make up. everyone has different views on that subject, but i had to agree to disagree with him.

i have been wearing acrylic nails for as long as i can remember. i feel so completely naked with out that coat of acid over top of my nails. i know it doesnt make your nails stronger, but i just love the way my french tip or nail polish looks on it after everythings all done. yes i wore them super long and a friend of mine always has to be a smart ass and told me that it was unsanitary. i don't do unsanitary things, and i wash my hands and make sure im clean.(asshole). anyways the "old" silent partner was trying to explain to me that "women wear their nails short, those long nails is kid shit" **clears throat** huh? i happen to like my nails long because sometimes i just like to get ghetto girl designs on them.-- but then i thought about it. i am getting up there in age and that is some high school shit. FINE. so i cut my nails down. which did feel good. NOW i have completely taken the acrylic off and i wear my natural nails. i polish them sometimes or they just stay natural.


yes, i have come to the conclusion that i am getting older and i don't enjoy the same things i used to. i have turned into a homebody. which i have no problem with. i'm trying to get myself together as a person.

Now back to this "woman" thing according to this 36 year old.

i honestly cant stand my hair. it curls up when its humid.i have no chemicals in it. it wont hold curls after a while. i have to wash it every three days and its just a big mess. i dont have the time. so it either stays down or it goes into a ponytail.-of course there was a problem with that.

you know, he just started to be a pain in my rear end (after the positive input was absorbed). like when the cartoons by accident sit on a needle..you know? im the type of person that if i am really feeling you and you are feeling me, then hey, maybe we should focus on each other and maybe we can become an "item". i'm a real bitch so i told him how i felt. and i dont normally do that because i hate rejection.so i bet you can guess what the next problem was: "you're too young, you havent lived your life"

Excuse me sir..i have seen and been through more shit than you can possibly know. who are you to tell me what i may be ready for and how much i have lived? i think that's something called judgement.

so heres the rundown: my nails were too long, i do nothing with my hair and i havent lived my life. fine. poof be gone then.so just when i think he's poofed out of my life.. im hangin out with my ex on some friendly shit, and i get a phone call. "So i see you with your boyfriend"

okay stalker. is this the ONLY reason you call me?

time goes on... A FEW DAYS AGO im minding my own business riding down the street and i missed a phone call so i call back "YEA WERE YOU JUST RIDING DOWN 93rd?" i mean seriously guy... you only call me when you see me in the streets? doesnt matter i have a resolution to all of that..i just wont answer hahahahaha. in all honesty i thought by dating someone who was much older would eliminate drama and mostly everything negative. thought i would be able to look to him for some type of SOMETHING!!! but im done with that. you cant play hard to get with a female thats hard to get.

**by the way the nail polish above that i tried and loved is called "blu": hi-definition by sally hansen**

Damn She Fine...

I GOT A NEW HAIRCUT--U LIKE?

INSPIRED BY MY DARLING BROOKY

"Take Me Out To The Ball Game, Cuz I Only Fuck Wit Ballers"

With the name "Trophywife", and the looks of a goddess (.don't judge me.lol.). Everyone seems to think that I am someone who wants a man to take care of me, while I sit at home filing my nails getting fanned while some servant peels grapes and other exotic fruits feeding them to me sitting by the pool on the coast of Egypt. I FUCKING WISH.

I don't live in a fantasy world. I know nothing will happen unless I make moves. I actually have a JOB. I know it's hard to believe, but it is very true. I work 10-12 hour shifts. I don't ever yell out that "I don't need no man to do shit for me cuz I got it all" because I know thats not true. Men and Women were ment to be because they need eachother for SOMETHING. I know there are some women out there that yell that "independent" shit-- only because Neo and Jamie Foxx got ya heads all types of fucked up. Stop living your life by songs and be real with yourselves and BE YOURSELF!!!.

As far as the quote "take me out to the ball game, cuz i only fuck with ballers- yup them is my type of niggas-shot callers", is far from a lie. Now lets get this shit straight---> Bal-ler: an individual with a large sum of money{and continues to get it}. If I get money, what makes you think that I want someone broke. I may not be a walking Bank Of America ATM but I think I make a descent amount of money and planning my life accordingly.You NEED money in order to survive and provide. Am I right or Am I right? Because I think I'm right. I mean don't get me wrong but every woman wants a BOSS--BUT-- I believe that in every relationship both people should work or have some type of income. What if one of you can't work..then what? I dont give a damn how much money one or the other makes the both of you need to be gettin money. Provide for eachother and stop just depending on one source of income. Anything can be taken away at any given moment. I mean damn, I'm borderline lazy but I like nice things so I go to work. You want to argue about it, leave a comment.

My New "Body Mark"

The last tattoo's that I got on my wrists, I got scorned by a few people. I was told it's not lady like and a bunch of bull-- that I wouldn't make it in corporate world. HA! Not to say I don't care but there isn't anything some sleeves can't cover. My "guy friend", said not to get anymore or something to that effect but I couldn't pass up this tattoo that I really wanted. I've been saying that the last tattoo that I get will be down my side. That's just what I got and I love it! It took the artist like an hour and a half to draw it up, then an hour and a half to needle it in on my side. It was very painful but I'm a soulja-- I sucked it up and took it like a woMAN. Its far from finished, everyone is telling me to get it colored in and not to leave it black and flesh..lol.. I'll think about it.

Let's Be Real...

Conversations don't always go to well with friends and I. I really don't know what is in the water now but people are so wrapped up over materialistic things and its annoying me.

Last night while at Applebee's with my two homies Ebony and Vanessa, the topic came up about wedding rings and planning proposals. I am a realist and my answers were totally different than theirs. Ebony was kind of in the middle but Vanessa was saying the complete opposite of what I was trying to say.

If a man I truly loved, no matter what career he had or amount of money he had to his name approached me with NO ring and asked me to marry him, then I wouldn't decline him. Love does not have a price on it and if you want to be in my life forever then that already impresses me. Vanessa on he other hand was saying: "If a guy came to me with no ring asking to marry me- I would say no! where is my ring." To me thats just crazy town. That's not being considerate of your mans feelings. If you know he dont got it like that then don't be harsh, at least he wants to spend his life with you--how do you know you aren't going to get a ring later? So she says "he could at least get a three hundred dollar band to present because at least it shows that he planned asking me to take his hand in marriage, because weddings are about planning"... PLEASE DONT EXCUSE ME IF IM WRONG but-- if you love your man and want to be with him for the rest of your life then you will marry him even if its in the living room. You are married to take care of each other-- thick and thin-- til death til you part.. Not "with this big fat ass diamond rock i thee wed because it shows that i can take care of you". Life is not about materialistic things and all that shit can be taken away at any given moment anyways. You CANNOT live off of the fact that you have a ring. Also Ebony says "how do you tell someone you're engaged with no ring? thats embarrassing". How-- why is it anyones business but yours where your ring is? I dont know-- I just know that I would be happy with a plain old band. The bigger the rock does not mean there is more love. You never know what could happen, he might upgrade your ring every year or every few years. I bet if you're ungrateful then you won't get shit. Maybe that I just dont give two fucks about how big my ring is because love is love-- love is not diamonds and keeping up with the Jones'. Maybe I'm just used to flashy shit guys try to throw at me and I'm not impressed. Plain Jane me up baby!

Is It Wrong?

I know majority of the world have children under the age of ten. They are still at the age of trying to push their parents buttons to see what they can and cannot get away with. I am a very strong believer of spanking children who do what they AREN'T supposed to be doing. The first time you tell a child to "stop", "don't do that" ,"watch your mouth"--That is a fair warning. There is no second time around because if a parent has to tell a CHILD something twice they need to be popped. The third time--okay now im about to whoop your ass.

The news has been all up in and out John and Kate Gosselins business. I personally don't think that the "media" has changed their life. I think it was only a matter of time before they started to fall apart. One reason is because Kate is over protective and such a neat freak. I can understand that. If I had eight children all under the age of ten I think I would go nuts and have to have everything organized. Yes those children are a lot to deal with and Jon is just too nonchalant about the whole situation. The "media" has nothing to do with this couples relationship. They just don't see eye to eye and apparently never have. As far as her spanking her kids--HAHAHAHAHA -- I already knew that shit was goin down. (And for the longest people thought that only black people beat the hell outta they kids and white people put their children in time out. TIME OUT DOES NOT WORK GUYS!) They don't listen all the time. What do you think? Do you think its wrong to whoop your kids asses? Whats the big deal..Seriously...