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6.17.2009

You Really Don't Know...

Seriously, I know that I am a beautiful young lady--reguardless of anything anyone says. I have confidence. There is no other Iyuana-Nichole. Many have tried but they all fail. Any female knows that if they feel good, smell good, look good, and show confidence, a man will approach you. Of course, all different types of men approach me--most I decline because THEY don't show confidence in themselves and start saying "whatever your man isn't doing, I will".. I don't like that because it shows that you are a weak man. I like to know that I CANNOT do the Salsa all over the guy I'm dating or who I'm with. I need some try of balance and control. Anyhow, plenty of men approach me--yada yada ya- and I believe a few of them have been on the DL now that I peek back at small incidents.. But how DO YOU tell if the man that approaches you is on the DL? I know all of you women who are out of the loop really want to know huh? There are many signs that we as women overlook because this guy has you in some type of trans. Unfortunately the signs are not in any way a man dresses. Sorry, gay and straight me tend to like the same fashions unless of course he is in your closet and acting over dramatic because thats called a DIVO or Drang Queen. Below are a few signs.

deep eye contact with another man

lack of sexual desire

emotional detatchment

very secretive and says you ask too many questions

display of excessive hatred towards gays

Shaving body hair

trying to have TOO many women

gay porn/internet activities

frequently hangs out at the gym

wearing a MAN bag--(not a louis or gucci back pack an actual purse like bag.)

Now he doesnt have to do all of these signs, these are just things to look out for. So that means A.You leave him alone cuz he wont ever in a million and seven years admit he likes men-or- B.Use protection..Double up if you will because more than likely he's dipping his spoon in the peanut butter jar. Then Again Ladies, its not about the man being on the DL. Its about how you react to the situation. Its not just DL men spreading diseases its the lack of protection and unfaithful men PERIOD, no matter if he's sleeping with men, women, or animals. AND remember there are 1 out of 2 men in this world that are DL. They always claim their metrosexual. -rolls eyes- RIIIIIIIIGHT and I'm a real princess from Jordan.

17 comments:

JustcallmebRi said...

Its so sickening that we as women now have to ask ourselves "is he on the DL". With some men you just know.. Absolutely not there is no way while others your like..Okay why is this guy pretending to be straight. I dated a man that I had doubts about from the get go and although he will not admit that he is bisexual or whatever I KNOW without a doubt in my mind that he is on the DL.

-bRi

TROPHYWiFE said...

see and i've felt the same way thats why this post came about. the american culture and freaks think its a "turn on" when two women are together but when two men are together its gross..very! then for them to pretend everything is normal. its so hard to tell cuz they WILL NOT tell u they're gay..

D Dunning said...

WOW ...

I'm all for controversy BUT did you just say that 50% of men were "secretly" Gay or Bi-Sexual ...

I think that's quite a leap ... I mean I hope its a creative attention-getter (its the reason I'm commenting) and NOT something you believe is a fact lol

I wish I could give you and your readers some insight BUT I'm just as shocked by the reality of these men in our society ... They aren't just working behind make-up counter and doing hair anymore they are pro athletes and fraternity brothers ...

I say just ask ... I make it a point to ask women if they are crazy ... Hell Ask Men if they like Men - Its gotten to the point in our society that they can't do ish but respect you for it (yall have to protect yourselves thus protecting us straight fellas that might meet you down the line) - BUT - I think IF you have to as then uhhh ...

I mean BUT with some of your reasons above you might just be dealing with a cheating fella or someone that isn't really interested in You ...

The other ones scream out homosexual tendencies & Yall might be playing for the same team :-|

P.S.

I think ALL women are Bi-Sexual :-)

Iyuana said...

well mr. dunning you are correct, the men that are gay/dl/homo/metro just arent the men doing hair and make up. matter of fact the man that used to do my hair isnt even gay or nothin! which is a shocker but it is the athelets, and frat brothers. look at what they have to do every day...be around nothing but men. then they try to hide their "secret" by having too many women or being seen with different women around town just so that the rumors die down, flyin chicks in from here and there. it amazes me for real. and the frat brothers are just as bad, why the fuck cant the world know what goes on when u cross?? sounds like a secret homo cult if u ask me. think about it..i'll wait...

but then when women ask a man if they like men they be ready to kill you--literally..i've done it. so that could go one of two ways-- either he is and is offended or he isnt and is still offended. he'll never admit and say "hell yea i like men but im using ur cute ass for a cover up" my gay-dar goes off a lot now...

D Dunning said...

I mean you can play that card in any aspect in life ...

I've played sports and been in a locker room full of fellas talking about ass, tities, groupies and food ...

I can't speak on Fraternities though BUT I know a gang of cool Greeks that are Regular Guys that like Gals and Cheat and Lie and Etc ...

I'm a firm believer in saying whatever I feel or asking whatever I want because the truth remains once it leaves my tongue its for you to deal with ... Get Offended Or Whatever ... As Long As You Answer I'm Cool ...

I myself have an abundance of gals ... I have never thought "uhhh ohhh beautiful sexy gal I can't talk to you because this might make me seem DL lol" so I can't agree with that aspect of your arguement lol

I mean I think this is when 1st Date Sex should come in ...

LADIES don't be offended if we try - It just means we're REAL MEN acting like BOYS lol

TROPHYWiFE said...

now u cant even say that a man dating or sleeping with too many women isnt a cover up so people wont think he's gay. i've seen the shit happen more than twice okay and not from the same guy. so u gotta understand why these are the reasons i wrote the post. men will do and say anything to get a gorgeous gal or a piece of ass for the night. even if that mean lying about being bi-sexual.

i went out with this guy, we were going to this clothing store--i figured something was wrong when he said " u can go in with me but what can i tell them u are to me? my cousin,sister, or friend?" and im like huh? i didnt even really respond because i didnt understand. once i got inside everything looked normal. i didnt realize until after we left that these were bisexual men. ever since that day i never talked to that dude again.

D Dunning said...

LOL @ Mr. Catch - Ha Ha Ha ... The Stories Made Their Way Down 71 South !!!

I guess there are a few that draw the attention of lots of attractive women for one reason or another who use it to divert attention from there Closet Lives BUT by NO MEANS does that represent the stragedy of the masses of men in our society ...

If we are trying to and/or getting a lot of women its to stroke our egos and proves we aren't past our bachelor stage in life ...

These Finger In The Peanut Butter Fellas are the ones that have it all BUT you can look at them and tell they don't think so ...

They have the Perfect Girl Physically BUT she's still charmed by a stranger's smile and good conversation (because she's neglected at home)

I don't really know much more than that scenario BUT I mean if you have too much in common then it might be a problem ... Opposites Attract - Hint: Men & Women lol

TROPHYWiFE said...

i think you're tryin to cover up shit for your fellow "athletes" and men..u dont wanna believe that the ratio 50%

D Dunning said...

Believe Me - I don't want to believe its true BUT I know it is to an extent ... I mean the ish unfortunately exists.

I can't just let you generalize men is such a manner and bite my lip though ... I mean I know I can sit here and say that ALL my friends are Hetero BUT there is some Gay Guy that has just as many friends and can make the same agruement about his friends beign gay which in essence makes it 50/50 BUT you are saying ON THE DL + Gay = Damn near NO HETERO Men ...

I can't phathom that as being accurate ...

TROPHYWiFE said...

of course u can't its hard to believe. probably some of your closest friends are DL but youll never know it cuz they are SCARED of what others will think why do u think its called "down low"? i mean i cant make u believe the ratio--thats up to you but please believe boo boo that the shit is real and niggas is really double dippin they spoon in peanutbutter and then jelly..

D Dunning said...

My Circle is Dying Breed ...

Real Men ...

♥Porscha said...

ugh the DL thing is getting out of hand but really, if a guy would to admit he is bi-sexual or whatever would a woman truly accept it and still date him? my guess is most likely, no.. and therefore men feel they have to hide their other sexual preference in order to maintain a relationship with a girl...sad but true.. lol I was watching true life im a bisexual and the girl who the bi dude dated just couldnt be w/him and he ended up with a guy (although they broke up....) so its like bi dudes either have to be just into guys and date guys or hide their other preference..Oh well..

Lyrik .x Stushy-Marie said...

It seems as if gay men is the new best kept secret .

All In said...

"display of excessive hatred towards gays" ***real shit.
good post mama ;)

TROPHYWiFE said...

Thank you All In..
and im just tired of watchin my back thinkin niggas is gay/homo/dl.. annoying..i mean i wanna get married one day.. so ya'll go cop the movie "Cover"

ThugRockStar said...

I was tripping off the man bag reference. In Jersey (where I'm originally from) we called fanny packs, "fag bags." I'm not too sure about the body hair shaving thing. A lot of women don't want men to have a lot of body hair. Hair can also increase unpleasant odors, during sex. You can shower all you want. Emotional detachment can also indicate that a man is just not feeling you anymore, and is just about ready to move on to the next chick. Either way, if you see all of these "symptoms" at once, dude probably is a pillow-biter.

Prissy said...

"frequently hangs out at the gym"

interesting point.

Well like my gay male friends always say, "every staraight guy has bisexual tendancies" ladies just be careful