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7.29.2009

The Difference Between "WIFE" & "WIFEY"- by ShattaStar

I thought this was very interesting, So I'm posting this to my blog to get feedback. I sometimes have very deep conversations with ShattaStar-- Even though sometimes I don't agree with his topics he keeps my mind rolling even more than what it does. Read Below his definitions of "Wife" and "Wifey"

A young lady on twitter asked me whats the difference between being a wife and being a "wifey". I started to laugh but I had to realize that many women today honestly dont know what seperates the two, let alone the true definition of being a wife anymore. Most sistas just wanna get married, but not many wanna be a wife. I see so many women bragging about how shes some guys "wifey" which in my opinion is a low standard for any woman. So I will compare and contrast the difference between wife and "wifey".
A WIFE...
• never has to compete with other women because she is the only woman her man is seeing, "talking to", and interested in. She knows this from his actions. Not just his words.
• The wife knows her mans family and friends. She usually has her mans parents or guardians blessings. Along with his friends. If her lifelong partner's friends and family dont approve of her chances are she isnt going to be his wife.
• A man treats his wife with the utmost respect. Never cheats on her, or lies to her, or treat her like a jumpoff, a "main" or his "wifey".
• The wife usually sees a side of her partner that no one else sees. She knows her man inside and out. His darkest thoughts, secrets, etc. There are no mysteries. No cloudy areas. Everything is in the open.
• The wife is the woman who a man chooses to spend the rest of his life with. She gets the marriage proposal, the ring, and everything that man has to offer her for a lifetime.
A "WIFEY"...
• Is the woman who a man spends all of his time with. Usually been with for a long time. Maybe even live with. But isnt married or engaged. Ever thought why? Keep reading...
• Men know whether he is going to marry a woman in the early stages of the relationship. It takes us men no time to see if a woman is going to be around for a while...or a lifetime.
• The "wifey" also has met SOME of his family, and SOME of his friends. Sometimes the "wifey" may receive the mans family and friends blessings, but its usually over ruled by him...in the end.
• The "wifey" is equivalent to the "main". Meaning the one who he likes or cares about the most out of the women he deals with. The "wifey" is rarely the only one. Just in HER mind she is. But she dont know the TRUTH. Men are NEVER 100% faithful to a "wifey".
Heres why...
• The "wifey" is the woman who he may spend years with. In his heart he knows he wont marry her though. He'll keep her around until the woman who he feels in his heart he WILL marry comes into his vision, then its curtains for the "wifey". A man is going to be faithful or dedicated to the "wifey" for so long before he starts roaming. He will eventually break up with the "wifey" and go be with the woman who he will make his WIFE. So ladies...please stop bragging about how your his "wifey", all that means is your his TEMPORARY wife until the PERMANENT wife comes along. Then its back to the drawing board for you. Dont be stupid. If you dont have a ring on your finger then your just his girlfriend. "Wifey" is a very low standard to claim. Thank you for reading.
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15 comments:

Jessenia said...

that some of the realest piece of news i read about relationships in a while. great post!

FreeSpirit said...

ilove this POST. so real & raw. [kudos]

Anonymous said...

Being a male in this day and age I agree to what homeboy is saying,but it takes two...and I might be going off topic a lil but a man dont choose a wife solely on his terms they choose each other,who to say the hubby aint just around for so long just because shes comfortable with him at that particular moment and when her ideal husband comes along she leaves hubby to be with him,this a new day all the title holding,jumpoffs,f/w/b,side pieces aint about nothing even if your married,because married men/women cheat all the time and I ain't saying its right but thats what it is nowadays marriage dont hold no value most people want to recieve and give little in return...my point is wifey,wife is just titles only love,respect,loyalty can justify a real meaningful relationship all that title holding people wanting to know there place is just bullshit game playing.

TROPHYWiFE said...

I agree with this post completely. BUT then theres the "baby mama". What if they have 3 or 4 kids..will he ever marry the chick? My opinion..NO because if he really wanted to he would of married her before or after kid number one...am i correct?

Shattastar said...

Iyuana again I thank you for posting my blog on your site and what does "have my mind rolling more than what it does" mean? LOL But all jokes aside, I felt the urge to speak out against labels that are taking the focal point away from what is really important: the relationship. So many of us get too caught up in "labels" (wifey, hubby, etc) that we tend to miss the importance of what it takes to MAINTAIN the situation. This explains why majority of relationships AND marriages fail.

Shattastar said...

As far as the "baby mama" situation. Lets be real here: its RARE that a man is going to marry a woman who already has multiple children by usually multiple guys. In my opinion thats just tacky. I dont see why and how so many women destroy they dreams and lives having all these kids with random men. Its sickening. But Iyuana I agree with you, the women who have 3-4 kids probably wont last that long in a relationship unless that man loves kids and enjoys playing house. Just my opinion. I rather start off fresh personally. LOL I refuse to raise somebody elses creations.

Anonymous said...

You right,but then again it can depend on what type of person that dude is if he believes in family over everything(if to say shes a good mother and caring women) he might come around and realize he has the ideal wife right under his nose,he can begin to love her more with time and maturity...again it depends on what type person they are...but 9times out of 10 you right.

precyse said...

you NEEEDD to become a motivational speaker for so many misguided young ladies who listen to ignorant music and their idiotic friends lol....deadass tho...i jus posted this on my blog....cheq me out

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i loved it well explained

Lady D said...

Preach. This is so true and I don't think many girls know the difference these days, it's really sad. I had this girl come at me sideways like "I'm his wifey" and I laughed in her face and told her to call me back when she was his wife. lol Love these posts, keep it coming hun

yours truly said...

i am amazed there are still women out there who take the term "wifey" as a sign of security when it comes to relationships.

to shattar, great post.

♥Porscha said...

damn he broke it down

Kim said...

hmm very interesting. thank you for this post. It all makes sense now.

downlow said...

So true, and so well stated.

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divine said...

Okay, what you've said is true but what about when a married man refers to his wife as "wifey"?? What's up with that? Hmmm