Now That's A Bad B*tch

what man do you know that doesn't want a bad ass chick? i am always the one to give another female props if she is fly, sexy, or gorgeous. hell if she's all of the above i don't hate on fly bitches. on the other hand if you are a raggidy ass chick who dont keep yourself up then im gonna have to point the shit out. i hate when i see a raggidy weave, dirty stained up clothes, jeans that look like they can walk by them selves, dirty shoes--u get what im tryin to say. anyhow, i really do think that kanye hit the jackpot with Amber Rose. she is like super beautiful and somewhat looks flawless. i've seen her with long hair--i just was not feelin it. I love her with no hair, it brings out the beauty in her face. am i right or am i right?

"I Don't Remember" -Yea, Okay.

i'm like always completely out of the loop when it comes to celebrity gossip and such. i used to mediatakeout.com often but lately i've just been in no need for gossip and falsies. truth be told i have barely been watching t.v. it just seems that reality t.v is just so super scripted and maybe i should just stick to my normal episodes: Scrubs, Desperate Housewives, King of Queens, Family Guy, First 48 and such. i also have been trying to be a teacher to myself by researching different things. google has become my best friend. anyways, back to what i really want to talk about. i have never really been a chris brown fan or a big rihanna fan. their whole situation has just been dragged out to its entirety. like the wheels have fallen off of that ride and i really dont think people care no more. i mean i never did. there are millions of domestic violence cases going on around the world and the media chooses to pick up this one and run it in the ground and drag it through the mud. then the fact they had this guy on Larry King and this jerk says he doesn't remember hitting the girl? pa-lease,guy. were you intoxicated? i mean did you black out from hitting her? i mean i dont even care about who hit who first. i dont care about what caused it. why dont i care? because these people mean absolutely nothing to me. how do you really care about a celebrity who just doesnt know you and all you know is their music/entertainment? i cant. then parents are all ranting a raving about the situation because their children look up to them. maybe you should be parents and your children should look up to YOU and someone who has actually made a DIFFERENCE in the actual world and not the entertainment business. its fine to let your children listen to their music and watch them perform but in my opinion its not okay to let them indulge on these peoples personal lives, granted it is all over the t.v and radio. teach your children something that will have a positive effect on their future.

on the other hand, i've been told i was "hating" on lil mama because i said they should call her "lil papi" because she looks like a lil boy. so shoot me. this lil chick is on this show on MTV giving her half cent on who can and cant dance? (i know im late) who even cares bout her opinion? like, how can you take advice from somebody who sales no records and her one hit wonder song was "my lipgloss is cool, my lip gloss be poppin" LMAO! CHICK you made a song abut lipgloss and i havent heard anything since!!!!!!! i'm really going to need you record companies to stop giving just anybody a deal. where is she now anyways? lmao. im done with her.

So something that i have been using forever now i finally decide to blog about. Neutrogena Rain Bath. they have come out with this new one and its a grapefruit scent. its more for women now, whereas the other one was more like a masculine scent. don't get me wrong i love masculine shit but i like the grapefruit one a lot better. it leaves you feeling so extra clean and refreshed. might i add i only use neutrogena products anyways. its the only thing that doesn't dry my skin out, and since my skin is extremely sensitive it works really well because it has salicylic acid instead of benzoyl peroxide in it. so go try it out and let me know how you like it.

lust.love.pain

just so everyone knows, my blog is about things that go through my mind, or things that i find interesting. thats why its MY BLOG. if i touch on some topics that hit too close to home, dont get mad-get in touch with yourself and think about it and how you can change it.

lust.love.pain.

is actually my friends AIM handle. at first i never thought about it. then i thought about it last night.

everyone always talks about "its the inside that counts". in all honesty, thats a lie. when a man approaches a woman or vice versa there is a physical attraction. no matter if its style, demenor, charm, looks, money--whatever the case may be. you have to see a person before you actually know if you want to move on to the next step. i know damn well if a guy is ugly im not bout to holla at him, period point blank. yes im shallow when it comes to looks. on the other hand, if he is not a looker but he has class,style and comes at me correctly then i might give him a chance.(LUST) you get all involved with that person sexually weather its the first night or in two years. you have lust for that person. you are drawn sexually to them. majority of people who are not "relationship dumb" know that when you continue to have sex with someone you gain feelings for them.(LOVE) you may not be in love with them but you have love for them. ((and if you are in love with someone after a few times of sex and no conversation then you need to be checked out [seriously].)) now your nose is all wide open for that person and you just dont know how to tell them you care for them without the person going all nutso... why? because the feeling isn't mutual. (PAIN) men are totally different than women when it comes to brains. SOME men think with their dicks. SOME men just want to hit it and quit it. which is fine.(lol) know your role. women get emotionally attached to "good dick" and not the actual man. and men get so used to "good pussy" that they dont even know what they're doing to the womans emotions. (i know i went in two different directions with this. just be careful who you lust.love.pain with)

basically what im trying to say is to avoid the lust.love.pain bullshit have a conversation or two in between time to get an understanding of what really going on.it doesnt hurt to communicate.

**ATTENTION** if you get the vibe that the other person isnt really feeling you after sex then you need to leave that situation where it stands and walk away.

Lets Be Serious For A Moment (re-post)

There are so many people in the world who fake religion. They only take precaution to certain things in whatever religion they practice when it's convienent to them, at the moment. A perfect example is being a Muslim. In order to fully be a Muslim you have to practice everything muslims do. There are so many Muslims in America who disrespect the religeon. So let me break it down to all of you who claim to be Muslim. If you don't meet the requirements then you need to stop fronting. QUICKLY. Before I list these things I'll just let you know that I am proud to be an American but people who belive in their religions who arent from here wouldn't trade places with us to be American born. This is because they value everything they learn from their elders in their country. Not to say we don't, but we are so stuck on materialistic things, men, women, sex, drugs and alcohol. We look up to celebrities and not our own. That has got to change.I'm not saying that I will convert but these things that Muslims practice are so sacred and just astonishing to me. Its really amazing.

Anyhow, a young boy who cannot trace his father, grandfather or great grandfather is already lost. Some of you may disagree but to me it's the truth. Some of you men think that you have to struggle and fight for your rights and life to become a man. In all actuality your father, grandfather, and great grandfather are all blueprints to your life. The same goes for women with their mothers, grandmother, and great grandmother. Listen/Pay Attention!.

In Sudan or Muslims -if you will, a son has a first name and three lastnames which is his fathers first name, grandfathers first name and great grandfathers first name. Those are the three names that make a boy who he is. A son is raised under his fathers wing with a grandfather to guide and a great grandfather as his blueprint.

Now, the men there have three wives. WIVES not a wife, a chick on the side and then an extra chick to hold him down when times are rough. THREE WIVES. As long as they are all treated equal and kept separate everything is good. There isn't a such thing as domestic drama. The woman is always grateful for the man who selected her. Only because he is a quality husband, a family man. He will be by her side for the rest of her life because families are very important.

A man can be as young as fourteen to marry if he has "sexual feelings" running through his body. This may sound foul but America has really corrupted our minds as far as thinking that someone as young as fourteen cannot work and provide for their families. In other countries they do not force their 12-14 year olds to have abortions if they get pregnant. They are primarily already married with homes and all of that.

Not to diss America but it just seems that "children" in other countries are more advanced and have greater values than here in America. This is supposed to be a better country than all of the rest but if you really compare it, in some ways America is really fucked up and I feel brain washed to be truthful. People who do not believe in these following statements need to re-evaluate their being a Muslim.

In order for you to really appreciate it you MUST undergo all experiences from a child to adulthood. When a man is ready to build his family, he selects a woman of course who he likes who comes from a good, solid, concrete background. She must know how to love, provide and live. She has to bring him peace, progress, and pleasure. The woman doesn't mind because she craves the attention and the love from this strong quality man. She will not argue, judge him nor nag him to death about anything.

Trust and believe that there are whores there and they are kept a secret. Unlike here in America where they are praised because of their sexual ability i.e-superhead. They stay in the walls of the illegal whorehouse. NOW, a female who comes from a good background and is married and turns whore is most of the time murderd by her husband,father or brother. They do not get punished for it because she brought shame and dishonor to the ones who raised,guided, loved and provided for her. The whole country knows the woman is sacred. That is why they are completely coverd from head to toe only revieling their eyes. If you are not the womans husband, brother, uncle or any kind of family member you are not to stare too long at her and vice versa or the woman will be disowned.

Liquor is not prohibited by a real Muslim because it makes man behave in ignorance and it is also illegal.

Homosexuality is non-existant and most of all forbidden.There are few who try but end up kiling themselves or end up missing. There is no remourse for the man who enters in the exit and builds a life where there cannot be balance, reporduction or family.

Adultry is a crime. There is no having sex with your homeboys sister, cousin or anything like that just because you feel like it. You must approach their family for marrige if you feel like you want to have sex.

MEN WORK. It is a sign that he cares for himself and his family. Doesn't matter if he is paid cattle or cash, he still works. Lazy is non existant.If you really think about it. Black people here talk like they are the MOST powerful but they look like fools. There is a diffence in being well educated and talking a bunch of shit to make you look smart. The ones that talk a bunch of shit look down on on other blacks coming from anywhere. In Sudan, men are raised to leave the blabbering and gossiping to young girls. A man who doesn't say what he means and do what he says, they often crave attention and misuse it when he gets it, he doesn't share what he earns or what he knows deserves death.

In Sudan,Africa everything is fresh. Things here are not. Everything is processed and when grocery stores tell us they are selling fresh fish, it's really not unless you see them taking it out of the water yourself. Chicken is not fresh either. So be careful what you eat. In actuality people need to research a religion before they take it on.You can't half step and just read the Quran or believe in Allah. You have to do EVERYTHING! There are so many people out here converting to be a muslim because they are in jail or because they are boxers and so on and so on. Wearing fake Kufis and all of that. Come on and stop already. Like I said, I am not a teacher so do the rest of the research yourself. In my opinion after researching Africa and how they go about everything, don't get me wrong but I love America but its fucked up here. I see why Africans and people from other countries appreciate everything they have and why they work so hard. If you don't know why then you need to take a step back and give yourself a history class like I did. Any Questions or more input--feel free to leave it in the comment box and I will be happy to respond.

Never Buy A Woman Shoes......

She'll walk right out of your life. I beg to differ, because if my man bought me some of these I'd stick around for a lil while..lol.. I don't care what anyone says, I love this shoe! This shoe along with many other Harjuku styled boots are part of the Fall 2009 Louis Vuitton Line up.

YAY MY 200th POST!!!

So since this is my 200th post..lol.. I HAD to ask my followers on twitter a simple little question..

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT REAL & CHANCE?

MissLolaFoxx these QUEENS, 'Real' & 'Chance'. #yourenotfoolinganyone - is 'Real' rocking a remy sew in? -_- I cant..

MercedesMarie they're clowns. total and complete, CLOWNS

beanz4life 2 clowns who don't deserve the camera time they get.

Mystery_2u Hmmmmm....lol

CaRamErikaL Real looks like Scar from Lion King....

IcyHot09 nothing lmao

Ms_Rayne they're whack. the end.

fashionmusicluv I think they should be on TV bc they are quite lame. Who wears arm stockings (REAL)

I actually think that Real is kinda cute --if he didnt do the silly shit he does...lmao-they do look kinda "ify" hahaha

*tear*

Being away from the internet was a break well needed. I only had cell phones to work with to update my life on Twitter and to accept selected people on facebook. By the way, most of you will be getting deleted from facebook because it's too many people who like to build drama around what I post. It really is annoying and I'm actually tired of the childish remarks and silly antics. Anyhow, everynight in DC was fun and everynight Merv got me blasted. We were there to work but made it pleasurable lol. There wasn't one second that went by with out alcohol. We ate too much and I gained about 10lbs on top of the weight I already need to loose. Its all good though because today I only had a salad and water. I will not play myself. The shopping in DC was excellent. I am a very picky shopper so I didnt pick up much. The first night I was there I met Dariel Pulliam. You know Neffies stylist/bestfriend from Keyshia Cole the way it is. Be sure to watch Neffie and Frankie. He's so super sweet and beautiful. Check him out HERE .

Anyways, I had such a blast that I'm going back in two weeks (hopefully) but until then, enjoy the photo i found of myself when I was much smaller back in DECEMBER!!! god i need to push away from the table.

*LOVE*

People take the word love and just toss it around. While they are doing that, I bet that they don't even know what love means. Truthfully, love is giving never taking. Love consists of three key things: 1.Emotions;how we feel about each other 2.Ethics;how good or bad we are for each other and 3.Joys;how much we satisfy or dissatisfy each other. These three factors determine the quality of a relationship. If you are looking for love, would you recognize it if you found it? Can you tell the difference between love and infatuation? Between love and attraction? Between love and sexual desire? Between love and friendship? Between sex and intimacy? Between a good relationship and one that is only pleasurable? I will break it down for you if you haven't. If you are looking for love you will never find it. It has to come to you. You don't fall into love you grow into it. When you are infatuated with someone you don't love them you love things about them, because you really don't know them. When you are attracted to someone that means you like the way they look, smell, act etc and want to further the relationship or try to find out more about them. Sexual desire is something you want to do with that person behind close doors. In order to love someone you have to be their friend first and grow to love their friendship qualities. Intimacy goes way beyond the physical. Being intimate with someone is letting them get inside your mental and letting your guard down (vice versa) and letting them make love to your mind, body and soul. Last but not least, a pleasurable relationship I believe is better than a "good" relationship because this means that the other person has your full undivided attention and the relationship is at its highest level. For those who beg to differ please feel free to comment.

The Difference Between "WIFE" & "WIFEY"- by ShattaStar

I thought this was very interesting, So I'm posting this to my blog to get feedback. I sometimes have very deep conversations with ShattaStar-- Even though sometimes I don't agree with his topics he keeps my mind rolling even more than what it does. Read Below his definitions of "Wife" and "Wifey"

A young lady on twitter asked me whats the difference between being a wife and being a "wifey". I started to laugh but I had to realize that many women today honestly dont know what seperates the two, let alone the true definition of being a wife anymore. Most sistas just wanna get married, but not many wanna be a wife. I see so many women bragging about how shes some guys "wifey" which in my opinion is a low standard for any woman. So I will compare and contrast the difference between wife and "wifey".

A WIFE...

• never has to compete with other women because she is the only woman her man is seeing, "talking to", and interested in. She knows this from his actions. Not just his words.

• The wife knows her mans family and friends. She usually has her mans parents or guardians blessings. Along with his friends. If her lifelong partner's friends and family dont approve of her chances are she isnt going to be his wife.

• A man treats his wife with the utmost respect. Never cheats on her, or lies to her, or treat her like a jumpoff, a "main" or his "wifey".

• The wife usually sees a side of her partner that no one else sees. She knows her man inside and out. His darkest thoughts, secrets, etc. There are no mysteries. No cloudy areas. Everything is in the open.

• The wife is the woman who a man chooses to spend the rest of his life with. She gets the marriage proposal, the ring, and everything that man has to offer her for a lifetime.

A "WIFEY"...

• Is the woman who a man spends all of his time with. Usually been with for a long time. Maybe even live with. But isnt married or engaged. Ever thought why? Keep reading...

• Men know whether he is going to marry a woman in the early stages of the relationship. It takes us men no time to see if a woman is going to be around for a while...or a lifetime.

• The "wifey" also has met SOME of his family, and SOME of his friends. Sometimes the "wifey" may receive the mans family and friends blessings, but its usually over ruled by him...in the end.

• The "wifey" is equivalent to the "main". Meaning the one who he likes or cares about the most out of the women he deals with. The "wifey" is rarely the only one. Just in HER mind she is. But she dont know the TRUTH. Men are NEVER 100% faithful to a "wifey".

Heres why...

• The "wifey" is the woman who he may spend years with. In his heart he knows he wont marry her though. He'll keep her around until the woman who he feels in his heart he WILL marry comes into his vision, then its curtains for the "wifey". A man is going to be faithful or dedicated to the "wifey" for so long before he starts roaming. He will eventually break up with the "wifey" and go be with the woman who he will make his WIFE. So ladies...please stop bragging about how your his "wifey", all that means is your his TEMPORARY wife until the PERMANENT wife comes along. Then its back to the drawing board for you. Dont be stupid. If you dont have a ring on your finger then your just his girlfriend. "Wifey" is a very low standard to claim. Thank you for reading.

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